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But here’s a good thing.

(just some close-to-graduation thoughts/advice from a college senior)

Nothing is decided in your life for sure, because you can at any point make a sweeping change in your life still. I mean, think about it — you’re not tied down by kids or your family anymore. Your parents will have some say in what you do, but not as much. You’re a free person, and you can choose to take it quickly or slowly, whether that “it” be relationships, jobs, or life.

You get to choose what’s important in your life after you graduate.

And that’s where the difficulty comes in. It’s sane, easy for a lot of people to commit to

something like a desk job, and have that 40+ hour week. It’s money, and it gives you time to figure out your next step, and because life goes around in cycles, you wind up slipping into this cycle where you’re going from job to job figuring out your next move, until you have some feeling of sureness on this path you’re on, whenever that may hit.

Or if you’re all about control, you already know what you want, and you can brute force your way through it with guts and determination.

Although, if you don’t, one day, you wake up and you’re in your 40’s, and you still haven’t found that realization yet.

You can, alternatively, choose to figure out where you’re headed. I saw myself (and will probably at some point in the future) stuck in this sort of rut (you’re always thinking about things like this in college, but there’s a sense of finality to it when you’re close to actually leaving). The analogy I thought of was my life was sort of spinning in one place; I wasn’t really sure which direction to point, but I was getting damned frustrated that nothing seemed o be working out. There was no major I’d explored which I had liked, nothing I really enjoyed doing, and actually very few people I really liked spending time with. I really had no place to go, even though I’d made drastic changes in terms of friend groups, majors, and locations. Most of all, I felt like my heart had been crushed twice in my first two years at college.

I had no sense of direction. So I quit. I gave up on doing what “worked” for everyone else — the school thing. I managed to get an opportunity to escape and get some sort of bearing on what I wanted and why I wanted those things. And I took it — I chose going abroad over doing research.

I knew that going abroad wasn’t going to help me academically or socially, but that it would rescue

the vital part of me that was beginning to slip away, something more important than anything physical. If I didn’t manage to find what I did in Japan — and elsewhere — I would probably have kept searching to be honest (I came very close to handing in my application for taking a leave of absence sophomore year after talking it over with my parents).

That’s not to say that that experience necessarily applies, and I’ve told this more times than I would like to a certain person, but whenever I hear about or experience a similar situation, I think back to the experience. I reach back and try and get a better bearing on things. Who cares if I’m being passed by everyone else in the meantime? I can catch up — and once I know the direction I’m headed in (or have some sense of it), I can start sprinting with reckless abandon.

美月: SOME LOVELY ADVICE

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E’s - Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Play more games.
6. Read more…

Source: brucesharky

Carologica said:

Ah, glad to see you’re doing more :) I bet you’re better at Illustrator than I am. Because I pretty much suck at it. So, how long DID it take to draw the damn butterfly? ^ ^

Well…it took me nearly two hours cuz I kept wanting to change colors. Also, transitioning from Inkscape to Illustrator was kinda awkward to start…it’s weird how after you start using one drawing program drawing in the other becomes kinda awkward for some reason. My Photoshop drawings are rly weird now as a result of using Illustrator. But I gotta stick with Illustrator cuz it’s easier with Flash.